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He discovers the betrayal online of his wife. She beats him 

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As we have asserted many times, the betrayals more and more takes place online. One example is a recent episode.

A man, suspicious by the behavior of his wife, who got up at night and spent hours at the computer, has placed a tiny camera and has discovered her while she was taking pictures hard that “shared” on Facebook with her virtual lover much younger than her.

Of course, once watched the images and established the misdeed, all hell broke loose. The man has addressed his wife, but she, instead of providing justifications for his behavior, went against the husband, guilty of having spied on, and she slapped him. The screams of the couple have called some family members of the woman who live next door, and who ran in her defense sparking a brawl.

The poor husband went to the emergency room, where he was diagnosed with bruises heal within a few days. Then he went to the headquarters of the postal police and reported the injuries to his wife and gave the police the evidence of online betrayal.

On his side he had the images wisely taken from the micro camera that made irrefutable his words. Very often the evidences are the only way out and to pick them up  there is only one way: to rely on professional products that discreetly provide us with the key to our future.

Kidnappers gang luring girls through Facebook

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A group of people has kidnapped a thirteen year old student. The girl was carried several miles away from home by an adult known via Facebook and affected by sexual disorders. At the unsettling plan was attended by many people, a group organized to lure young girls through social networks.

The episode began in September when the girl has established a friendship through Facebook with a twenty-six years old. He tried to approach the little girl giving her a smartphone and they have also had the opportunity to meet. Then, he thought to the plan, a romantic getaway: just before she enters to the school, he take and carry her away. The absence of the pupil at school is immediately noticed, the didactic direction had already warned the family of frequent absences. Meanwhile, the car of the pair reached a youth hostel. It’s midday, there aren’t places available. According to the initial reports the girl is left alone in the hall and at that point she realizes that she ended up in a dangerous game. She calls home in tears and says: “I’m with a friend known via Facebook, I don’t even know where…”. The investigations intersect, the police goes to the hostel, waits for the arrival of twenty-six, arrest him and rescues the victim.

The happy ending story isn’t the result of a madness morning, but the exploits of a person with pedophile inclinations and a 23 year old woman, accomplice involved in the kidnapping of thirteen. We wait the interrogation of other people. But now the case is clear: the kidnapping was the work of several people and had a sexual motive.

The prosecutor, meanwhile, has acquired the computer and the smartphone of the student. There are traces of other contacts in the course of this, thankfully short, nightmare. And they are just the devices closer to the teenagers who should be kept under control as do many parents. With the small devices for PC control and invisible software for smartphones you can protect the children and teenagers, acting before the situation gets out of hand.

Rachel: history of cyberbullying

cyberbullyRachel’s mother had tried to take off her cell phone. She had also closed her Facebook profile and had changed her school. She understood that there was something wrong. But she had no idea that her daughter, a girl of 12 years old, had become the target of a group of cyberbullies. She couldn’t imagine that every day on her pc arrived terrible messages; the kindest was “You must die”.

So when Rachel decided to don’t go out more from the house and don’t open her mouth, her parents didn’t know what to do. Surfing the web and reading the comments of other parents about similar stories, they realized that it could be cyberbullying. They searched for a solution. They found it, answering to the technology with technology. They contacted Endoacustica Europe, leader company in security and surveillance field, and they bought small tools that, connected to the pc, have allowed them to discover everything that was happening, passwords, typed text, chat…What Rachel’s parents were found blackmail, harassment, photos stolen and then made ​​public, insults and hatespeech, anonymous message that no one can trace.

These phenomena to date have concerned mostly United States and UK. But it also happens in every part in the world. A few days ago a group of boys in Bologna (Italy) used the social network Ask.fm to organize a mega fight. Through the same social, Hannah, a teenager from Leicestershire, received hundreds of messages every day in which she was invited to commit suicide. Hannah hanged herself in the bathroom, while the parents were down in the living room. She was a member of Ask.fm because she wanted to be popular. Then she said no to a boy and the trolls, the provocateurs of the network, became crazies. “Why do not you drink bleach so you die?”. They wrote. And for Hannah they weren’t just words.

The buttons for the reporting of abuses introduced by Ask.fm and by Twitter, after the controversy in the newspapers,  aren’t useful . And also are useless petitions, such as the one carried out by the father of Hannah who asked the Ask.fm closure. If you close it, tomorrow is born another. And you can not even pretend to delegate the safety of adolescents with policies of enrollment. So parents have just a road. Be careful. Check what happens when the kids are using the PC or smartphone and other devices. There are tools to enhance the safety of their children and they are also very reliable.

13-year-old victim beaten outside school for stealing the boyfriend of a peer

bullismo_2Someone claims that it’s better that teenagers are in total freedom of thought and action, others emphasize strong controls. As often happens, the truth lies in the middle. If it’s true that the identity creation requires autonomy, is also true that “some advices” are necessary.

In recent years, most of the relationships between the teenagers happens via internet and social networks, so it’s necessary to control the use of the pc. It would be optimal to monitor the behaviors of their sons “at distance”, so to know what they do and who they interact with, without they know it, leaving them free to express themselves, but away from dangers. Very used tools are key logger or key hunter, small devices by Endoacustica, that allow you to know every detail typed on the computer keyboard.

With the use of this type of tools, many “accidents” would have been avoided. Few weeks ago it appears the news of a young girl violently beaten out of school for having “stolen the boyfriend” of a peer. The incident occurred near to the school and wasn’t unexpected by the victim. Months of threats and harassments via Facebook led to the beating of the adolescent.

Before the aggression, three girls, two thirteen and one fifteen, have snatched the phone to the victim with whom they have sent a text message to her mother to tell her to don’t pick her up from the school. Then, the thirteen year old was dragged into a nearby car park, thrown to the ground, kicked and punched. To save her, the father of another pupil, that has stopped the beating. The girl was brought over to the ER and parents have complained.

Probably take preventive action is the best form of justice that we can be expected.

Facebook for couples with “Us”

noifacebookAfter having been defined home wrecker and have been called into question in numerous cases of separations of our day, forcing the “smartest” partners to use monitoring tools for pc, Facebook tries to make peace with the couples online.

How? Making the couple “social” with the application “Us“, through which the untiring romantic can share everything happens within the couple: photos, thoughts, videos, and so on…

In reality “Us” is an extension of the existing functionalities of Facebook, which allows you to view details of friendship clik on the wheel in the top right corner of the profile, accessing to the settings of the page, and then selecting “view friendship details”. Then you see the chronicle of the interaction between two people from the moment they close social friendship. “Us” leads, via a link, to a page very similar to this, but in a more direct way and also in a more customizable space. In addition to keep a diary with his status and updates, the user “coupled” may then manage a detailed chronicle of love, with the level of privacy configurable from the main settings.

If the love were to end, the couple’s Facebook page could soon turn into a vent page or better yet a page where publicly denigrate the former partner.

In the U.S., a woman of 43 years has published on the “Us” of her lover a photograph of herself and the man in intimate attitudes. Of course, the surprise wasn’t pleasant for the counterpart and for his official partner. In many use invisible control systems for PC that take away this kind of discovery, preventing the risk of betrayal online.

“Bang with friends”, the app to have sex with your Facebook friends

22bangfriendsBang with friends” is the name of the new Facebook app that doesn’t raise doubts right from the title, very explicit. Having sex with friends of social network, the purpose of the application developed by three unknown in order to “help anonymous users to make new friends for the night”. Logging to the app are displayed friends of the opposite sex, in fact at the moment are available only heterosexual pairings, only for error might display users who haven’t specified their gender. Once logged in you can send a clear message to the person you are interested.

The chosen will be notified and can choose whether to answer or not to the proposal. The application, while promising anonymity to those who use it, doesn’t convince lovers of privacy. Some notifications, such as the enrollment to the page, risks to appear publicly.

In contrast to other services like that, “Bang With Friends” creates links only between users that we have among friends on Facebook that not only use the service, but also is willing to show a possible blind date.

About 20 thousand were the members over a period of one week despite the many criticisms. The app is accused to amplify the potential of a virtual relationship against a face-to-face communication. Developers defend themselves making public their intent to cater mainly to college students who use social networks to get in touch with new friends and to create new relationships.

They also want to break down the taboos and moralities that revolve around sexual sphere. The makers claim that the application – showing a partially nude woman lying on a bed in the image on the home page – it isn’t designed only for men. About the version only for heterosexuals, they explain that it isn’t an adversity against the LGBT community, but it’s only a draft version, still to be improved, which also provides for restrictions for children and relatives.

There isn’t respite in the jungle of internet with social networks that wink at secret affairs and are increasingly focused on hide deeds and misdeeds. It would seem impossible to “control” what children and partners do online. For this, most users, both men and women, using monitoring systems that allow remote PCs to avoid unpleasant surprises and public humiliation, or rather, social!

Employees and social networks

Once you have finished a job interview has become habit that the owner and the interviewee run on facebook or other social networks to investigate attitudes and preferences of the interlocutor. “Browse” would be the most appropriate term to define this established practice which aims to obtain as much informations as possible about the subject to assume or, on the other hand, the person to impress.

social_networking_sites (1)The law has reiterated in recent days, that the employer can’t obligate an employee, during the job interview, to access to his social profiles, perhaps under the guise of assessing attitudes and predispositions in the management of his profile. But nobody forbids to observe the public profile.

In California, entered into force the Social Media Privacy Act, the most important U.S. law regarding the new digital scenarios, to defend the rights of workers and students. Despite the surprise of many, the law states that the boss can have access to private accounts in the case of suspected misconduct of the employee.

The ACLU, historical American Association for Civil Rights, has pointed out that the law doesn’t protect the young, the students, who often receive numerous requests for access by staff of the attended school. Open the question about the possibility of the boss to “enter” in electronic devices in use of the employees.

In Italy there isn’t legislation that specifically regulates the control of social profiles, there is only a ban to investigate on political and religious opinion, trade union, or other areas not relevant for the work. But these don’t create great interest by administrators of the companies.

According to a report of the New York Times, U.S. employees can glimpse in the social network a safe place to express themselves freely and without fear, even if the criticism against the owner. In confirmation of this, the National Labor Relations Board, an agency of the U.S. government that monitors the correctness of industrial relations, has declared itself in favor of workers in the delicate matter of network behaviors by stating, among other things, illegal the restrictions imposed to the use of social media.

So, if on one hand they want restrict the use of social, on the other hand the employee control is often impossible. Many business leaders, given the persistent news of confidential data leakage and corporate espionage, have resorted to special tools for the remote PC control or have installed video surveillance systems able to stem the phenomenon of industrial infidelity and maintain their dignified image even on social networks.

Facebook the home wrecker

According to a study in the UK 30% of divorce cases cite precisely the word “Facebook”. The research, which was published by the website “Divorce Online”, has been accomplished on the basis of a sample of 5000 causes and it has raised on the blog of the “Wall Street Journal” a heated debate: is not true that Facebook is today one of the main causes of divorce? Not only Facebook, but also chat and Internet in general, according to 80% of the legal members of the attorneys association of Americans law family would have a leading role in the separations so much so that the U.S. judiciary has held that a court may order to a spouse to give the password to access to a personal Facebook page.

There are many husbands and wives who fear betrayal and seek to discover the passwords of the different accounts of spouse on the Internet, perhaps using systems to control the remote PC or keyhunter, tools to record typed characters on a keyboard that allow, in this way to discover the password. A practice that doesn’t allow to use the data collected during the trial, but that certainly opens the eyes to the cheated spouse who at least can dispel any doubts and make a choice for life.

New friends or old relationships that life, with its many vicissitudes, had dissolved. Today, social networks allow to recover them with a click on “Add Friend”. A single click, a thousand temptations to fall. Although it’s easy to demonize this tool, partners victims of betrayal should take into account that it isn’t the medium, but the action itself that matters and that must be condemned. Of course, communications with the web today have become easier, but you can not accuse a social network to be the cause of the failure of their relationship. If a relationship is broken, there are definitely deeper causes that go beyond the scapegoat, in this case Facebook.

Social networks, according to the British study, also, are cited not only as a source of alleged or actual treachery, but also as a source of discord between parents undergoing separation who quarrelling for opening or less than a page by its sons.

Essentially, before answering the big question “Facebook ruined families?” with a “yes” would be more appropriate that we all were to make a self-examination it goes beyond the instrument. If you are cheating, the fault isn’t of the Internet, but more profound dissatisfaction that should be investigated. However, we can not disregard the fact that social networks, and Facebook in the first place, are changing radically and, perhaps not always for the better, the way in which, paradoxically, is living the social. A social that is moving away, with all its “pro”, but also with its countless “against”, from face-to-face.