The crime of stalking occurs when someone (often a former partner) performs a series of acts (which may be threats or harassments, but also seemingly innocuous acts, such as continuous sending of unwanted messages, flowers, or letters) making psychological violence against the victim causing an understandable state of anxiety and fear or forcing him/her to change personal habits (to replace telephone user, change residence, etc.) or even causing a well-founded fear for his/her personal safety. Therefore, it’s an offense against the individual moral freedom.
Threats, beatings, harassments, in any way the offense is committed, the stalking situations key is constituted by the evidences. Only if you have evidences of the real situation you can take action and report out. For this reason, in many stalking cases are used bugs, hidden cameras and other monitoring tools that allow you to nail the culprit. In this field, the use of professional and reliable products is critical.
Not all stalking situations are alike, so it isn’t easy talk about the defense behaviors that must be adopted. However, there are some useful rules.
First, it’s useless to deny the problem. Often, you have difficulty to consider youself a “victim”, you tend to avoid to recognize in danger, only to underestimate the risk and thus facilitating the stalker.
If the harassment is the request to start or re-establish an unwanted relationship, you need to be firm to “say no” in a clear and unambiguous way. Other efforts to convince a persistent persecutor, including improvised psychological interpretations for “need of help”, will be read as a reaction to his behavior and thus represent reinforcements, as attentions. Even the return of an unwelcome gift, an anger phone call or a negative response to a letter are signs that reinforce the stalking.
Careful behaviors are very effective to defend against the violence threat: to go out without follow predictable habits, in peak times and in crowded places, perhaps bringing with them a selfdefence spray, to increase the feeling of security.
If you receive telephone harassments, it’s recommended to don’t change the number. Again, frustrations can increase the stalker motivation. It’s best to record phone calls in order to gain the evidences. It’s useful to keep on hand a cell phone to call in case of emergency. If you think to be in danger or followed, don’t rush home or in a friend’s home, but go promptly by the police.