Jealousy is present in man just as in women, the difference lies in the approach. Women feel betrayed by the emotional point of view as a matter of trust, and the man cannot bear to have a rival from the physical point of view. Every day there are numerous people who buy spy phones with which to monitor calls, text messages sent and received by the partner, but also always know where he is and with who he is by relating. Most of the time these devices are bought by people who already have suspicious about the conduct of the partner and it isn’t uncommon that these will prove founded.
Some people say it’s just a form of selfishness and possessiveness, others say that without it one can’t speak of true love. Jealousy has always created differing opinions and from these derive destinies opposites: one is the strengthening of the relation, the other is its progressive collapse.
The term “jealousy” comes from the greek and it means ardor and rivalry, in its seems to convey an aggressive passionality and a series of behaviors aimed at safeguarding the couple. The jealous has in fact a strong protective instinct for the couple. Faced with specific attitudes from “external” for the partner, peeved, acts quickly in favor of the union. Sometimes with irony, sometimes more aggressively, he points out his jealousy defended by the enemy. In contrast, the partner may react feeling the passion and remaining fascinated, or be annoyed.
To arouse discomfort are especially excessive behaviors. They are the jealous who fail to argue in front of mere suspicions. They close to dialogue raise their voices, threat to end the story and sometimes react with verbal violence, but also with physical one. Episodes that mark the couple indissolubly. In this case, the problem lies in the lack of confidence and fear of abandonment. This may be an affective illness of childhood.
Only by addressing positively their emotions, they can help the couple’s relationship. Irony and seduction can be two secret weapons to control the emotion. The obsession certainly don’t lead very far and places first self-love and not that of the couple, as is believed. There are those who resort to psychotherapy.
Who undergoes jealousy should try to don’t react abruptly, but to put the partner in a position to fully express his state of mind, trying to don’t trivialize and limiting attitudes too seductive with the supposed rivals.