It’s usual to think of the gender violence to mean the event in which the victim is female and the offender is a man. This kind of misinformation is usually vehicled by the media involving awareness campaigns unidirectional relegating to a marginal position the hypothesis according to which the male gender is often victim of violence. The episodes occur mostly in the home and these often entail, given the nature of the relationship often intrafamiliar, the silence of the victim. Therefore, any type of analysis is limited because of number of people unable to report their condition.
A recent research by Istat, which was inspired by a survey carried out in 2006 on a sample of women, revealed that the violence don’t know order and gender and it’s made too often to the detriment of men. A scene in which a woman slaps a man, for example, doesn’t raise particular outrage or indignation, in fact the episode is often minimized and it becomes even ridiculous, ironic. So these reactions lead us to think that violence performed by women doesn’t exist.
The unofficial survey wanted just to show how this form of abuse exists and also wanted to shed light on a subject unknown from the scientific literature. Some mentions is to be found in referring to the United States, India, Canada and the UK. The questionnaires were administered to subjects aged between 18 and 70 years for a total of 1,058 males. 63.1% of the sample claimed to have sustained least one episode of physical violence at the hands of a woman in the course of their lives. In the first place there is the threat of use violence and the most common way results to be typically female: scratching, bites hair ripped. Among the “other forms of violence” appear attempts to shock with electricity, investments with the car, hands crushed in the doors and drawers, pushed down the stairs.
With regard to sexual violence, 48.7% of the sample claimed to have sustained least one episode of such violence at the hands of a woman. The greater percentage regards the interruption without understandable reasons of a started intimate relationship. These events have made the victim depressed, humiliated, often leading to physical and psychological consequences such as insomnia, feelings of inferiority, decline of self esteem, inadequacy. In some cases it was necessary to resort to therapy and analysis. No less relevant is the part of men forced to have sex in ways unwelcome, including group activities and partner-swapping. Some of these practices have also caused visible marks, scars, burns.
Finally, relates to the persecutors acts, 31.9% of the sample reported having undergone them by a woman. From the analysis that have emerged, would seem that more than 12% of men has experienced least one act of persecution at the hands of a woman in the course of life.
After this excursus about violence of which men are victims, it’s appropriate to give some advice to the boys. The most obvious solution may be report to the police, but on the other hand, it’s often difficult to demonstrate this kind of violence, especially within a relationship. The use of bugs and microrecorders proved to be appropriate in many cases in order to gather evidence against the persecutor be it man or woman. As we have seen, the aggressive ways haven’t limitations in physical prowess or in muscle development and therefore may also be implemented by physically fragile and delicate people. Well then pay attention to these verbal or physical episodes.